In this heartfelt continuation of Susie's journey, we dive deeper into the importance of mental health and the powerful tools available to navigate life's most challenging moments. Susie, alongside our hosts G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, shares her experiences and insights on dealing with emotional breakdowns, setting boundaries, and the therapeutic value of laughter.
Episode Highlights:
- Shower Cry Therapy: Susie discusses the cathartic nature of crying in the shower and the importance of letting out emotions in a safe space.
- Self-Reflection and Therapy: How self-reflection and speaking with a therapist can help reframe negative thoughts and experiences.
- Setting Boundaries: Practical advice on establishing and maintaining personal boundaries to protect mental well-being.
- The Power of 988: The significance of the 988 crisis hotline and its impact on Susie's life and countless others.
- Importance of Laughter: The healing power of humor and laughter in managing mental health challenges.
Key Takeaways:
- Understanding Triggers: Identifying personal triggers and creating a safety plan to manage them effectively.
- The Role of Therapists: How external support can provide new perspectives and tools for emotional health.
- Effective Communication: Strategies for clearly setting and enforcing personal boundaries.
- 988 Crisis Line: A vital resource for anyone experiencing a mental health crisis, emphasizing that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- Spreading Awareness: Encouraging others to normalize conversations about mental health and share their own stories.
Call to Action:
If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, don't hesitate to reach out to the 988 crisis hotline. You can call, text, or chat with a counselor ready to listen and help. Your mental health matters and there are resources available to support you. Let's continue to break the stigma and normalize seeking help. Remember, it's OK not to be OKâmake sure you're talking to someone.
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Hi all, G-Rex here. Just wanted to let you know that this is part two of Susie's story.
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I hope you enjoy it and thanks for coming back. Bye.
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Music.
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And if it does ever get to a point where it is like getting to be too much and
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I feel like I'm going to have what some might consider my breakdown. I don't cry a lot.
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I'm not a person who cries a lot, unless it's a movie where an animal dies and
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then I'm bawling my face off. But you're so innocent. Yeah.
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Like why? So in that instance, like if I need a good cry, I need to let out
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some emotions, maybe I've held in for too long or something,
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then we do our good shower cry where no one sees us.
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I'm not feeling great afterwards and then
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i move on or i talk to a therapist but
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i mean you know yeah that's just yeah yes yeah
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for me that's obvious yeah yeah
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i wonder if you like think when you're crying in the shower like oh like do
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you start analyzing yourself like oh this has got to be related to that and
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like you become your own therapist every time so i do a lot of self-reflecting
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because it is something that works best for me.
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When I met with a therapist quite a couple of years ago, she was like,
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whenever you have that inner critic in your head that's saying whatever,
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or you get to that point where you're
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crying, look at that moment and ask yourself, how can I reframe this?
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So for example, if at work, someone really upset me for some reason,
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I got to look at, okay, what is it about this moment that's making me upset?
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Oh, well, it's reminding me of maybe something that happened in my own personal
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life. And so that might be why I'm upset.
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One time I was talking to someone who was like, talking about hurting their neighbor's dog.
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And I was so angry and upset about it. And I'm like, why am I angry and upset about it?
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Oh, because I love dogs.
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Dogs over people. That's just how I I feel.
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I was angry with him that it made me upset and I had to reframe. Okay. Why am I upset?
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What's happening? Oh. And then I check in with myself.
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Yeah. And that was a huge tool for me when I went to therapy.
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It was the same thing was checking in because I had, I thought I was always
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very grounded in who I was and I was very probably emotionally attached, right?
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Like I knew what was happening to me and I could analyze that and kind of be
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okay with it, but not really knowing why something was triggering me that I had to learn that.
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And once I was able to learn that and really dive to the underneath,
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like, What is it about this thing that is upsetting me?
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It was huge. It was such a huge tool. And for me, I have to practice that almost
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every single day or I'll lose sight of it.
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So I have to make the efforts. Why is this upsetting me?
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I really dive into it. When I talk with callers on the crisis line,
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depending on what level they're at in our call, I always try to introduce a safety plan.
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And establishing our triggers in our mornings is the number one thing we talk about.
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And I might spend way too long of a time period talking about that.
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But to me, it's like when we determine exactly what it is that is making us
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feel whatever way you're feeling in that moment.
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Now we can figure out, okay, how do we meet that when that experience happens again?
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And what tool do we need to use in order to move forward?
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And I think that's one of the things that I appreciate the most about that job,
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this job, my job is creating that plan with someone because they don't necessarily
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look at those things for themselves.
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And when they have to sit with it, that's when they're like,
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oh, gosh, I didn't know chewing red gum would lead to me having a mental breakdown.
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But I remember it from my childhood. you know something so
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simple that yeah it's like the smell of
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cinnamon makes me think of this because of this big
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red gum i'm not a weird one but listen i've heard everything yeah but it's true
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and that's such a huge they can take that with them after that call every day
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you can use that and you become to learn and maybe hopefully one day wisen up
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to some of your triggers and
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know how you're going to react or be able to control it.
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So yeah, it's very important to recognize those things. And it does sometimes
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take an outside person to help you see it.
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Yeah, 100%. Because when I had my breakdown, nobody knew.
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Nobody. I was perfectly fine on the outside. In the inside, not so much.
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But, you know, the thing that I learned, and, you know, I'm a big proponent
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for it right now, is I wasn't taking care of myself.
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I was so busy taking care of everybody else's shit that I didn't take care of myself.
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Like, self-care and self-love, it's no joke.
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You have to take care of yourself. And as a true empath, that was very hard
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for me because, you know, I had been in customer service for years.
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You know, my customers were always come first. I would jump through hoops for
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them. But when it came to taking care of my own shit, no.
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But the biggest thing I did learn through therapy is boundaries, right?
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Like now, if it smells like drama, don't fucking come near me because you need
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a big old can of black spray paint.
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Oh, no. I can't see it now. We're good. I love that.
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Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's the way to be healthy for yourself,
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right? Mental health, it's practicing how to take care of yourself.
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Absolutely. And people always say like, oh, we got to create boundaries, right?
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And that's one thing that I think a lot of people are very unfamiliar with.
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What does it mean to create a boundary?
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And something that I've had to express to a lot of callers is when you're establishing a boundary,
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it cannot look like a request it right be oh if you keep blowing up my phone
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after 10 p.m then i'm not going to talk to you okay that sounds like a request yeah.
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Because you're saying if you keep blowing up my phone after 10 p.m you're not
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going to talk to me well but you'll talk to me tomorrow so like okay then it
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sounds like yes whereas setting a boundary Boundary is if you text me after 10 p.m.,
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I'm going to block your phone number and we will not be in contact anymore.
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So you can talk to me until 10 p.m., but after 10 p.m., I don't want to hear from you.
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And if you keep crossing that boundary, then I'm going to have to block you
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and we can't be friends anymore.
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That is a boundary that's establishing what it is I expect from you.
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And if you cross it, this is the repercussion of you crossing that boundary.
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And I try to help call or see if it's probably not the greatest example,
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but it's the only one I can think of at the moment.
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Yeah, no, I had to learn it. And I think I always like knew what a boundary was. Right.
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But one of the hardest and also literally one of my breaking like my aha moments
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in therapy was setting a boundary with a very close family member who I was.
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I don't want to say if I was afraid to set a boundary with them.
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I just grew up thinking it was never possible.
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So here I am as an adult realizing I need to do this for me because it's a non-negotiable.
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If I don't set this boundary, whatever it is, whenever this thing comes up,
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I'm going to be incredibly uncomfortable and depressed about it.
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So I knew, okay, you got to do this.
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Set it up, had the conversation, stood firm,
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was all like, you know like shaky and
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nervous but I set the boundary and they
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they respected it they tried it
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once they tried to break through they all just want to try it once and I was
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like sorry like I didn't even know more conversation yeah right but I remember
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having the very initial conversation setting the boundary hanging up the call
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my husband came into the room he's like are are you okay? Because he knew it
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was going to be really difficult.
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And just feeling like I could breathe. I was like, oh my gosh,
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the weight of the world just getting lifted off.
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And that's when I realized it's important to set boundaries.
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Because if you are making yourself uncomfortable to benefit somebody else's bullshit...
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You don't have to you like I had the option the ability and the choice to do
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that and I did it and it was like huge absolutely I'm like oh yeah he's got
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to do it yeah and I think a lot of people think that they can just set a boundary
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about anything and some boundaries are very silly,
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yeah like some are just silly like if we are friends in a group and all of us are friends together.
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And then two friends decide to not like each other.
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And they're like, well, if you invite this person, I'm not coming.
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That's my boundary. That's silly.
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I'm going to invite whoever I want. And if you don't want to come,
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okay then, but you're not going to put that on me. That is silly.
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That's on my boundary. That's your boundary. You just don't have to come.
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That's fine. But you're not going to get an ultimatum between people.
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Okay. right right ultimatums and boundaries yeah like there's a huge difference there.
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Exactly exactly it's so funny it's so true though like for me like my boundaries are like,
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if it smells like drama like i just
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i don't want it anymore you know i'm at
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that age where i went from 59
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to 60 i mean the minute i turned 60 i was like i
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don't fucking care anymore more okay because i don't but
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my advice to you guys is like don't wait until
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you're 60 to get there right do
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it in your what your 20s your 30s your
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40s your 50s right it's very freeing though extremely freeing and i i find that
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i sleep better that i connect better with people and i just don't let that outside
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shit tell me how to live my life.
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And for me, that is the most perfect thing ever because I just feel better.
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I feel better on the inside.
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Yeah, I still go to therapy twice a week, but damn, I feel good.
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And I'm thankful to be alive. So thankful to be alive.
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Yeah. And I think that knowing that you're
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a person who benefited from utilizing
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988 helps spread so
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much more confidence to others that it is a safe space to call and talk to someone
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because there's so many people out there that don't have anyone or don't think
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they have anyone or they don't want to burden other people with their problems because
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they recognize everyone has problems.
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And knowing that there's one person who benefited from 988, from calling,
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and it has in ways bettered your life, changed your life.
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You're still here to this day. You're still working through things on a regular basis.
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That should be an empowerment to so many more people to utilize that resource.
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It's a good starting point.
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Mental health journey 100 and you
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know like the whole mission of the podcast is to
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really normalize how we talk about mental health because if we just start sharing
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our stories and our journeys then somebody doesn't feel so terrified and lonely
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in their own journey right they may not have act they may feel so uncomfortable
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picking up their phone and talking to somebody
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just listen to the podcast because we've had so many awesome guests on that
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have shared their journeys and given us some tips and tricks and tools and things
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that we would have never thought about.
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And maybe even if we'd call the crisis line, right, we may not have gotten that information.
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But like, I will tell you, life really is worth living.
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And life on this side of depression is a thousand times better than it was on the other side.
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Absolutely. Absolutely. And I think that people have this fear behind reaching
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out to any crisis outline, whether it's 988 or any of the other ones that are
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out there, because there's so many.
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But they have this fear that if they call and they say, I'm feeling suicidal,
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or they say, I think I want to kill myself, or they say, I just cut myself,
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any of these kinds of things, right?
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That immediately somebody is
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going to show up on their doorstep and take them to the mental hospital.
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And I'm not going to speak for all of the other crisis hotlines out there because I can't, obviously.
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I don't know what they do. But for the one that I am passionate about,
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90 Day, I can say for certainty, that's not something we want to do.
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That's not something we're going to try to do.
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What we're going to try to do is see what helps you in that moment.
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And if that's talking, we're going to talk. But if you agree that you need help, then guess what?
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We're going to find you that help. And if that means we need to send someone
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to you, then we will find some way of doing that.
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There are so many states and cities now that are utilizing mobile crisis units.
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And with a 988 database, we can ask you some information, not all of it,
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but some information. and we can say, okay, this mobile crisis unit is in an area near you.
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They come to your house. They'll talk with you. That doesn't mean they're going
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to take you to the hospital.
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That just means someone's going to physically come to your house and try to help you in that moment.
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If you decide you want to go to the hospital, then they will help you with that.
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But just because you call does not mean it's going to end with you in a hospital.
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Little yeah it's good to know there's options for
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them there are anybody falls there are and i can
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tell you seriously because of 988 it gave me the voice you guys helped me get
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my voice back so i could at least tell my wife what was going on because she
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had no idea none dirty skittles didn't know my my friends didn't know nobody knew.
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But it gave me a voice. The very next day, I was in therapy.
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And then I started sharing my journey on social media.
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Because I didn't want people to feel as fucking terrified as I felt myself.
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Yeah. Right? And then I would call and talk to Dirty Skittles every day. And we would laugh.
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So my healer truly was going to therapy and laughing.
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I feel you on the laughing part. That's the only way I get through every single day.
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If we would have recorded some of those earlier conversations, they
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were so good so good i am a
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person who like as many times a day as i can say
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that's what she said i will yes so i
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i can never get the timing right i never get it right
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i'm like is it now is it now and then i'll say it oh i
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am so like on it like if i say something
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and you missed the moment where you could set it to me i'm
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gonna be like that's what she said i'm gonna
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do it to my own itself because you missed your moment and my
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son he's 16 and so he does the same thing
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like he's spot on with it so if we're not laughing
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all day like what is I mean what is happening like
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laughter is literally some of the absolute best
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medicine in the whole world and
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I think that people often kind of
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forget that like when they are so super depressed they
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actually don't have that ability to like laugh because they
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have no emotion they have no feeling like they're just like
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like in a zombie state and I
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have on many occasions when I'm talking with callers I'll be like okay what
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things do you find joy in oh nothing okay well do you like comedy do you like
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laughing I don't know okay well how do you feel about maybe pulling up YouTube and watching.
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Insert comedian, right?
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Or how do you feel about turning on The Office? Because obviously, I love it.
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Or something like that, like giving yourself permission to watch something that's
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funny and then laugh a little or things like that.
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And sometimes people take my ideas and sometimes they don't.
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But on the moments where they do and they have that moment to just laugh,
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Or if we're in conversation and I'm talking to them and maybe I randomly said
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something that I didn't realize was going to be funny, but they thought it was funny.
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And by the end of it, we're both laughing and we're having this silly banter
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back and forth. And they're like, wow, I feel so much better.
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I'm like, I'm going to see laughter. Yeah.
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Laughing is so much better than crying. Laughing. It just, it opens up so much
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within you and just increases your serotonin and your endorphins.
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And I'm telling you, there's times that Tony Skittles and I talk and man, we are friends.
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Just we're people we can just laugh at our own pain
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is what she means oh i do that to myself
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regularly so i feel that some of my care
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about my own self like sometimes makes people uncomfortable when i'm laughing
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about my own tragedies right that i'm like in this never-ending story of my
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you know self like is just depleting and i just like my body is deteriorating
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like i make the and they make people so uncomfortable i'm like oh dang you don't get it.
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Didn't make to me didn't mean to make you uncomfortable.
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Meanwhile you told you rex and i were dying laughing we're like oh this is great
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i'm like i just gotta find my people who are on my deranged humor level okay
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right right right literally it's all right i'm driving the short bus to hell
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so you know it's all good back there with you don't worry yeah and i'll counsel
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all of you while we're there it's Yeah,
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I'm going to serve margaritas and maybe like some THC soda and,
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you know, whatever you need, you know, it's going to be an enjoyable ride.
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That's the only way I'll be running is if it's after a margarita bus. Heck yeah. Right. Yeah.
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I ain't running because I'm going to die.
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I'd have to wear a bra. No, we're not running. That's like the worst.
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It is. Every part of my day is not doing that anymore. Right. Exactly.
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Yeah. Yeah. This has been great, Susie. I love this conversation.
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I love your story. I love what you're doing.
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I thank you for just even pursuing this line of work and being there for people
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that you may never meet ever, but just being there when they need you the most
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is awesome. So thank you for what you do.
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Well, I would say like, it's my pleasure, but that's so weird.
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Just Chick-fil-A is in my head 24-7. Right.
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I feel like that's the way you're supposed to end that when somebody's like you.
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But I love I genuinely do like
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love the work that I do and I know that sounds nuts
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because how could you love doing that
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but I genuinely love that moment
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where when I'm connecting with a caller who
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is at their worst whatever moment that looks like for them
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right and at the end of it we've
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established they're going to be safe for the rest of that day
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doesn't have to be forever just today in
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this moment after our conversation today you're going to be okay we'll worry
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about tomorrow when tomorrow comes right that moment is just like i feel so
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grateful that i got to be a part of that person's one day journey into the next
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steps and i just love my job.
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Yes. So Susie, I do have one question.
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So if any of our listeners are interested in working in like a crisis center,
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what would like be their like first steps?
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Sure. So obviously to, you know, figure out what is available in your state.
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So like the state that I live in, we are one of the top four largest 988 centers in the whole country.
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In the state that I live in, we service about 80% of the state.
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So we're the fourth largest in the nation, 80% of just our state.
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So we get a lot of calls. So what I would recommend is seeing what counseling
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or crisis counseling centers or hotlines or whatever is available in your state.
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So if you want to work for like 988, for example, you would go to the 988lifeline.org,
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I think is the one. Yeah, that's what it is.
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988lifeline.org. Yes, 988lifeline.org. And then you would click on a tab that
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says become a part of 988 or volunteer or something of that nature.
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And then drop down to find your state.
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And then it will tell you all of the different facilities that 988 works with.
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With so like there are different organizations that 988 affiliates themselves
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with that organization and so you're working together for whatever that state looks like.
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If that makes sense. So then you would see what openings they have,
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and then you could apply.
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Now, as a 988 crisis counselor in my state, like I said, you have to have a bachelor's degree.
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I'm not saying it's like that everywhere. You might not. And it is a paid position.
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So it's not a volunteer position.
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You do get paid to do that job.
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So I think sometimes that's important for people to know because when they call,
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they think we just are volunteers and we don't care.
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But no we 100 care like this
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is our job i oh my
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god i love this thank you thank you thank you suzy oh
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this is such a good question you're more than welcome
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to ask questions about the line what anything you want like if i can tell you
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i will tell you if i can't i'll let you know but if you have more questions
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i'm happy to try to answer them i don't have any i mean this just this has been
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just a beautiful episode yeah it's a beautiful like i'm just in awe i'm in awe Yeah, me too.
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I genuinely thank you for what you do because that's, it's not,
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I cannot, I would imagine it's not easy to do this. No, it's definitely not easy.
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And I will say this, like there have been times when people have called and
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they have had maybe a negative experience, right?
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With the person that they were talking to.
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And what I can say to that is if you call and you don't like the voice you're
00:24:08
talking to, you don't like the fact that it might be male versus female.
00:24:12
You don't like the energy that they're bringing.
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There are a couple of things I would recommend. Number one, feel the vibe out
00:24:20
of who you're talking to, right?
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Number two, you don't have to give us any identifying information about yourself at all whatsoever.
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Number three, we're going to ask you direct questions when you call.
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We want to know, are you feeling suicidal today?
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Have you done anything to harm yourself? And have you ever in the past tried to kill yourself?
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And we ask these because we need to know what direction we're going to take
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this conversation, how we plan to help you or navigate the conversation,
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because we want to make sure that we're giving you what you need in that moment.
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And by knowing those answers, we can help you better.
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So when you call and you answer those questions,
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whether it was yes and yes that does
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not mean we have anything to identify you
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so you're not going to send someone out to you just because you said yes right
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so if you are not feeling the vibe you can politely say hey listen i'm gonna
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call back in and talk to someone else and get you can hang up you can call right
00:25:25
back in you don't even have to politely say it you can just be like click.
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Yeah you don't have to say anything I mean like
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if you are not enjoying the the the
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flow of the conversation the only reason why I say
00:25:39
like say that you're hanging up is because that counselor might get real worried
00:25:44
about you and they might be like oh no is this something that like I should
00:25:49
be worried about this person right because that is a thing we do when people
00:25:54
hang up we do worry Worry a little bit, right?
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Be saying like, hey, not feeling this. I'll let you go. Hang up. It's fine.
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Then you can call in and talk to someone else. You can a dozen times and get,
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you know, different people.
00:26:08
You don't have to just talk to that one person. So if the vibe is not feeling
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good or you're having a negative experience, call back in and talk to someone else.
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It might be a better experience that time.
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And it's okay. okay and and i
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was just gonna say the crisis line it's not just
00:26:26
for people who feel suicidal it's for any type of like mental crisis that you're
00:26:33
going through if they will help you 100 you're talking to somebody that has
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been there done that fucking so thankful for that
00:26:44
opportunity because I'm here.
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Absolutely. And it's such an amazing resource.
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And for any of our listeners that are in Canada, you can use that same phone number, 988.
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And then if you are outside of the country, I saw this on Grey's Anatomy the other night.
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There is a, you can contact findahelpline.org and they will find,
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you can use that to find somebody within your own country to get help.
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Yes. And we also, for people who don't like to talk, you can also text or you
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can chat like on a computer with someone as well.
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And that way, I mean, that conversation sometimes is a really long one because
00:27:33
it's hard to flow when you're texting seeing or typing, but it's still an option for you.
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And if there's parents out there with kids, please recommend this resource to your children.
00:27:49
I don't want to scare people, but I've spoken to dozens of young adults.
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The youngest one I ever spoke to was nine.
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So just because you're not seeing
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it doesn't mean they're not feeling it and giving them
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a free resource that they can call and talk to
00:28:07
whenever they need is so beneficial to
00:28:10
them and for the people that call and prank the line it's rude don't do it thank
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you amen yeah thank you thank you thank you thank you so much i i just i love
00:28:23
everything about you you're such great energy oh my head a little bigger thank you.
00:28:29
You know that's how it works thank you
00:28:32
I appreciate it so much yeah and congrats on
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graduating again yeah so awesome I am so
00:28:38
excited I have an interview next weekend for the master's program that I applied
00:28:43
for and I'm really hoping that they accept me because I'm really looking forward
00:28:48
to being able to pursue this further I have a lot of hopes and dreams inside
00:28:54
of my head on what I would like to do in my future.
00:28:57
So I'm hoping we get there. But until then, I'm so grateful for working for this line.
00:29:03
Episode two, and I recorded that ending and I sent it to all my coworkers and I was like, be prepared.
00:29:10
Because we take so many calls like my center in a 24-hour period usually takes
00:29:16
over 700 calls yeah well in a 24-hour time span so i was like y'all be prepared because i'm gonna be,
00:29:25
you just put it out there on a huge platform yeah i'm so glad that they did that because
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that means so many more people now
00:29:34
know about the line i've listened
00:29:37
to even artists at the end of their set or
00:29:41
in the middle of their set talk about 988 so like the word is getting out there
00:29:46
and if people think that they might want to do this work please apply we need
00:29:51
you just as much as you need us okay amen amen all right nice thank you thank you thank you so much
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