Season 8 Finale: Real Talk on Mental Health, Coping, and Community Support

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Hey there listeners. Welcome to Shit That Goes Under Our Heads, the

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podcast where we normalize conversations around mental health.

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That's right. I'm Dirty Skittles, and alongside my amazing co host, you

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Rex, we are here to share stories and tips from our incredible guests.

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Each episode, we deep dive into struggles and triumphs of mental health,

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offering practical advice and heartfelt support. Because no one should

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feel alone in their journey. Join us as we break the stigma and build a

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community of understanding and compassion. Tune in, and let's

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start talking about the shit that goes on in our heads.

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3, 2, 1. Welcome back to another episode of

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shit that goes on our heads. Today, I'm here with my amazing co

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host, Dirty Skittles. And today we're gonna talk about our season

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8 ender. What the fuck? How did we get to season

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8, let alone season 9? I

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don't know. Are we in, like, an alternate reality where we're imagining people

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are still listening and nobody is? Well,

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if you look at our social media, no, they're still listening.

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And, oh my god, like, the last 30 days have been freaking

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crazy. Right? So on September

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30th, we won the People's Choice Podcast Award for,

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2024 Best Health Podcast.

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Okay. How the fuck that happened? I have no idea. But it was our

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listeners that voted for us for that award.

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And then on Friday 18th

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October, we found out that we were the 2024

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Women's Women in Podcasting best

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mental health podcast, another

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listener award. I know. Fucking crazy. It's just my mom. My mom

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is just voting nonstop somewhere. That's

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how I'm coping with things, guys. That's how you're coping with things? And

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then we found out that, we are go that

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we were going under the, Bleav network podcast network,

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which will expand our reach far beyond where we

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can, where we reach now. You know, my hope is

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that we can get out to more college campuses. And the

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reason is kind of selfish, but, about 2 weeks ago,

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there was a sophomore at one of the local colleges that committed

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suicide. And those are the people that need to hear our

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messages, the messages of hope that 98

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is available for anyone out there,

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synonymous. They saved my life. They could save your life

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too. And that, you know, we give you guys some

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hope. And, you know, and just continue our

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mission with, you know, normalizing these conversations around mental

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health. And I couldn't do this without my amazing, amazing

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cohost because dirty skills, I'm telling you, you just have the

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voice of an angel. You called me a porn star earlier, and now it's

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an angel. Okay. Whatever. You know what? You could I'm telling you,

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you could definitely, like, be a voice actor or

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just read stories on Audible. I

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could. I should. You should. If anybody needs a voice actor,

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I'm I'm here. Did you just hear what just happened to my throat as I'm

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talking about how sexy? Look. I'm drinking ice water, guys. I'm not drinking

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alcohol. But on a serious note, if anybody

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needs a voice actor, I got you. I got you. Just

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reach out. Actually, if you need somebody to read spicy books to

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you, for sure Sign me up. Sign me up. Look. I'm about to read this

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piece of mail that came in. The higher cost of everyday things.

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No. I'm just kidding.

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Let me read the back of my coffee cup. We love the people behind our

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coffee.

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My bad. We had so many

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amazing guests for seas for season 8.

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Like, all different, you know, topics,

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and our guests were just so humble

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and vulnerable. And their stories are really like

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stories of hope and just finding that inner peace to

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kinda go and and do what they wanna do in their life.

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And so, you know, we started out the season with Heather,

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and she, you know, she ended up leaving her job and

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finding her peace

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being her own personal you know, doing her own

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job. Right? And she left a really, like,

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hard toxic environment. And now she, you know,

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she advocates for her safety and her security,

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and she's just she was just awesome. She was awesome to talk to.

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Yeah. I like Heather. Like, every

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guest that we've gotten to speak with in these 8 seasons

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has reminded me that appearances aren't

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always everything. Right? Like, what you see on the outside or or how you

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first initially, meet someone

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and your impression of them. Everybody

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has a story. And I remember sitting across from her filming

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and recording the podcast and thinking, like, I wonder what her story

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is. Right? Like, what is it? And when she actually shared what she had

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gone through with her employer and, you know, speaking

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out about it and then her personal life and the loss that she experienced

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there, it all of a sudden, you get to actually

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see a core of somebody. And I just remember

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thinking like, wow. This is this is really beautiful. I know it's, you

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know, tragedy and and struggle and stuff like that that

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was she was sharing with us, but she was

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vulnerable. And it was really I'm very grateful

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to hear her story. I was so grateful to hear her story and, you know,

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her messaging will help so many people kinda find

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their own path and and know that it's okay

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to step away and do do the things that

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make you happy. Right? Because, you know, the 9

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to 5 and the oxid toxicity

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that goes on in workplaces, and

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it just makes it hard. Right? And sometimes you just have to step away and

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find your own path, and that's exactly what she did. And she's so much

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happier because of it. Yeah. Yep. She continued on

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after loss. And then we had Susan,

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and Susan was so much fun. First off, she was from

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Australia, and we and I just love

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the Australian accent. I'm sorry. I'm kind of a sucker for that.

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But she she brought out the inner child in the out because

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she talked a lot about art therapy and being creative and,

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you know, different modes of therapy. Because like we've

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said before, you know, talk therapy is not for everyone. Mhmm.

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But there are different avenues out there. And I use, you

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know, art therapy for myself. Like, there are many a times I will

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sit at the desk when I'm on a meeting, and I will doodle. And it

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just kinda helps me, you know, get out of my head a little

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bit. Yeah. I

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I'm, like, learning a lot more about myself through all of the guests. And so

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to hear her talk about different forms of therapy, there are there are things

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that I think all of us probably do that bring us joy, whether we

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wanna admit it out loud or not or, like, share it with others.

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And for me, I remember sitting there listening to her talk about art

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as therapy, and one of my favorite things to do is, like,

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listen to music and then make an an art piece based off of however

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that song made me feel or whatever. I never really

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thought of it as therapy, but it it made sense that I enjoyed it because

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there was something therapeutic about it. Right? Like, you're you're doing

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something that's taking you out of your mind space of of whatever is

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happening during the day. And it just reminded me like,

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oh, that's really cool that I do that for myself. Like,

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that's something that I need to do more often because it's therapeutic.

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And it it just makes you happy. So, like, a lot of the things I

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do for the podcast, like, one of the social media posts or

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writing a blog post, that's therapeutic for me also.

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Right? And I I get so much joy out of it. I get to be

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a little creative. I get to redo it if I mess them up

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because nobody's really gonna care because

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it's showing a piece of us. Right? And

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I I just I really liked I really liked her as a guest. She was

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a lot of fun. And, you know, it really helps with my

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mindfulness too. Like, I can just sit for, like, 5 minutes and

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color. Mhmm. I feel so much better. Do you use, like,

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a coloring book, or do you just, like, free I do. I, I

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use that coloring book on my iPad, but I also have some other,

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coloring books. I have the sweary ones, which

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are fantastic. Adult coloring books? Yeah. I get to

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color in the word fuck, and it makes me feel good. Nice. I

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love that. I love that. There's a there's a little shop here not too far

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from my house. I should I should send you a few of their things. I

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would love that. Kinda going back to what you said earlier, the same

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shop, I remember sending I think I sent you a picture when I walked in,

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and their booth, they had 988 shirts and sweaters.

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And a little part of me wondered, like, oh, I wonder if they heard our

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our little episode because I've never seen 988 anywhere on, like, a sweater

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or a shirt. So Right. And I think that's the the coolest

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thing. Right? Yeah. So I need some stuff because,

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winter is coming, and, I'd be be indoors. I'll

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be indoors. I typically typically go outside to ground myself during the

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day. But when winter comes, I don't go out as outside this

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often because I actually have to put socks and shoes on.

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And, you know fireplace? No. Well, it's not a real

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fireplace. It's a electric fireplace. You put it on? I

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do. Nice. But but we don't put it on too often because

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it's, energy suck. But, you know, I can stand there and

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the flames hurt all correctly, and I can look out the window,

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and I'm like, oh, it's snowing. I'm gonna stay inside. Blah blah

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blah. No. I mean, that's cool, though. Get your coloring, get a little

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fire going.

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And then we had B Town, and B Town was

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amazing. The the support she did for her

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friend and what she brought to light about bipolar,

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and finding the crisis resources that she was able to find

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in her own town, That was really

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helpful for me, and it actually inspired me to put

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information out onto our website about how to find those

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crisis lines. So it's such a great, great

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episode. Yeah. I thought it was, interesting

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to hear from a friend's perspective of their

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experience experience witnessing somebody that

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they love go through something difficult. I don't think we've had anybody

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share that part of the of, like, any, you know, story that we've had.

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Right. Like, on the outside looking in and, you know, what what it felt

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like for for the friends. Right? The person

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going through it was having their own battles, but, you know, the friends on the

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outside have their own battles also. And, just the advocacy

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that they they did for the friend and, you know, dealing

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with their own mental health based on what their friend was going through.

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So Yeah. And then we add?

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Then we had Alex. I love me some Alex.

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The art of the art of not

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giving a fuck. The art of not giving a fuck and

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also being rightfully

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like, I don't wanna say selfish because I mean, I guess, like, you're taking

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care of yourself for yourself. Right. You're improving the way

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you look because you want to, because the way it makes you feel. You're

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bettering yourself for you, not because somebody else wants you to. And I

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love that. I and I I love that she prioritized her

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well-being. Right? Yeah. And, like, stop being a people pleaser and Mhmm.

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Getting out of those toxic relationships. And and she's

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just a beautiful human. And I I think that we said

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fuck, like, 57 times in that episode. I actually had to put a

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not safe for work warning on that episode because we do have people

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that, like, listen to the podcast at work. Like, I honestly hope

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that you're listening to us through earphones or AirPods.

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AirPods because some of our conversations

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just aren't meant to be heard out loud. Yeah.

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Or your Beats conversation. Beats. Beats by Dre. Is

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that still a thing? I I I don't know. We'll we'll find out. Hip

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or cool.

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And then we had Amy, and Amy had such an

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interesting story. So not only does she suffer from bipolar,

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but her kids, you know, are neurodiverse

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also. And just bringing different aspects of like how to

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handle the stuff for them for, you know, going to school and day

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to day activities and, you know, fighting that stigma and,

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you know, doing a lot of of the work that we do, like normalizing

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those conversations because people don't understand.

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Yeah. That's the thing that, like I don't know.

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I learned from her episode to advocate for yourself, advocate for

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others who maybe can't, like your kids. Right? Like, they don't know how to put

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things into words. Like, we're going through that kind of now with Nugget and and

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learning how to get him what he needs, but

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just learning how

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to speak up about what you need. Yeah. Yeah.

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And, you know, it's a being, you know, fighting

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that stigma and being open about it and Yeah. You

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know, not being afraid to say that you're you're bipolar

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or that you have a mental con condition. I mean, I think all of

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us have some type of mental messiness. And, you know, the more

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we open up about those conversations, the easier it is for

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people to understand what's going on in their own heads Yeah. So they

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can find those resources they need. And what a great example. Does that for

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your kids? Oh, hell yeah. Hell yeah. Learn how

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to be vocal. And then we had Liv, and I

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knew you would love this episode so

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much because when, Liv reached

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out to us, I was like, oh, spicy books. Like, there's somebody who loves this

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topic so much. And I know some of our listeners are on

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my level of spicy book because they've reached out to you and said, oh, have

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dirty skills. Read this one. And I'm like, girl, done. Read it. Read it twice.

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Put it down. I'm good. So I was almost, like,

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nervous to be like, oh, what level of spicy are we talking about here? Because

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I was hoping for, like, you know, like, the crazy.

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But I was I was a little embarrassed to say it. And she had mentioned

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writing spicy books. Right? Like, how everybody

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like, the impression people have of you because that's that's what you do for work.

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Right? Like Right. Well, I bet you have, like, the craziest sex life and all

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this stuff. And she's like, no. I just I just like to write these stories.

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Same here. I just wanna read them. That's for me. That's not for anybody

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else. Yeah. It it's much it's your self indulgence. But what

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Elsa thought was cool is that, like, she totally changed careers.

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Right? Yes. So she she was in finance and then

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started writing these novels. And, like, her

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characters are her female characters are very empowered, and

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into her books. And she's kind of breaking

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the stereotypes. And, you know, she was another, another

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person from Australia. Like, that's I guess the Australians

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love us. I I don't know. Liv, if you need somebody to read your

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novels, I'm here. Just try.

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Yeah. I I we have the perfect, voice actor for

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that. I gotcha. And I think she would love it.

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What is our what is our world coming to us? What are our lives

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even? What are our lives? I I don't know. But you know what? I'm I'm

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so excited that we get to do this. Right? All these

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guests bring light to subjects

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that we we don't hear in day to day life.

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And it's it's encouraging.

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It's encouraging for me because I feel like we're changing the

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world one conversation at a time. I

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think it's it's interesting because when we first started

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this, like, I literally remember recording the first episode

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and thinking which actually never aired. Do you remember?

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Yeah. Because The audio. Because my microphone sucked. Yeah. Yes.

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Yes. But I remember sitting there doing this then

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and literally not thinking anything about it. And and, you know, you and I

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would have conversations off of the mic, like, before the podcast even started, and we

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would talk about how how important mental health was to

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us. Right. And just the the whole

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thing. Like, the more you talk about it, the better it is, and other people

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can hear, and let's take the stigma off of it. And we definitely had goals,

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but I never would have thought we would be in this moment

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and getting to talk about something that's so important to

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us with people we've never met before. Yeah. And

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these people follow us. They've followed us from the day they recorded

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Mhmm. To now. And what's even crazier

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is that, like, our 100th episode will drop the 1st

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week of January. That's crazy, dude.

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It's crazy. Like, never in a 1000000 years. I mean,

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in a 1000000 years. We we took those really

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raw, funny conversations that you and I had, and we

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built in this beautiful podcast. And

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I've learned so much about myself and

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about others and how I look at people now, and I look at

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their situations and how I can react better and

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how I could ask better questions. Yeah. I think I'm more,

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compassionate, I think, because we've

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gotten to to talk to so many different people from all over and

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hear their story that people that I'm interacting with every day,

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I'm very aware. Right? Like, I'm like,

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okay. Like, I really wanna hear them out when they open up and and stuff

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like that. So I think it's it's just been life changing. It is. As

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cheesy as that sounds. It it's not cheesy. And then we

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had Ella, and Ella was such a beautiful soul.

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Oh my god. Her episode you know, it turned out to be 2 episodes

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because I wanted our listeners to hear her

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entire story. Now a lot of time on podcasts,

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you only get to give that little bit of yourself. But I think that our

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listeners needed to hear from what happened in in the beginning

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to how how it ended and how she

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she wrote her book and how she is beautifully broken. And you know

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what? It's okay to be beautifully broken. Right? I think it's the the

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messiness in our life that makes

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us who we are. Yeah. There's, like, this these

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things, these moments where I'll find myself thinking, like,

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it's really it's really like, this is so

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profound. And what time was it? Like, come on. I gotta lighten

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up a bit. But, like, it's really cool to to be able to see

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somebody living life. Right? Yeah. Like, we're all on

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this Earth for a short amount of time,

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and we're all living life in one way or another.

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But to see somebody almost, like, rise from the ashes

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of what they went through, right, and, like, make better

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choices and make a change, and it's

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just it's really beautiful to get to see that and to,

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like, talk to somebody about their journey. And my one word that I wrote down

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for Ella was resilience. Oh, so resilient. And, you know,

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I loved how her her book, you

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know, was breaking the shame around eating disorders

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because, you know, I've had friends that had eating disorders, and I

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know how hard it was for them. And hearing her

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story and, I'm waiting for the next edition of her book

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really so that I can get the QR codes for the

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music for that section of the book. Because, you

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know, music music makes you

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happy. Right? It it's it has an emotion to it. Like what

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Emma, what Emma G had said, you know, music

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has an emotion to it. And when

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I'm kind of done in the dumps, I would throw some music on

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things that really make me happy just so I can, you know,

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get my endorphins going and how to get out of my own head.

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And she she was such a beautiful soul. I such a good

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person. Yeah. I think I need to get back into music because I used to

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definitely do that when I was younger. I would go and, like, lock myself in

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my room and blast music, and then I was in the video. I was dancing.

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I was the star. And now

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I'm in silence, like, any noise is distracting me from

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this miserable mess I'm in. Your

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your mental messiness is is messing with your head. God bless

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it. Jesus.

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Our final guest was Amanda. And I I loved how

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she's just so grateful for everything. And Yeah. You

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know, she turned her pain into a purpose, and she overcame

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herself out, and she finds purpose. And And that's

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hard. It is hard. Self doubt. Like, fuck. And I feel like

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that that for sure is one of those muscles you have to exercise

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every day. Because I don't think you're ever completely like

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well, maybe. Maybe. I mean, if anybody out there is like, no, girl. I'm

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completely a 100%, set in my

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abilities, and I believe in myself every day. God bless. Like,

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what was what was the trick that worked for you? Because self

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doubt, it can present in different ways and, like, different

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experiences. And anytime you're doing something new, like, how are you not

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doubting if you could do it or not? So And, like, for me, it's

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it's a little bit of imposter syndrome. Right? Like,

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wow. How did I get here? Out of this Any day now,

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they're gonna realize. Yeah. And so,

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you know, like, all our guests just brought so many interesting perspectives

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to to the season, and I'm so excited for, you know,

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season 9. I do have a message for all our listeners. You

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know, the holidays are approaching, so so is,

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the winter season. And just my own

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personal note, check-in on your extroverted friends. We

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are so good at masking what's really going on.

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Yes. Check-in on your friends. Yeah. And be

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and get your friend that you can be vulnerable with that knows all your shit.

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The most difficult time that you're going through that they know. Make sure you're telling

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somebody. Don't keep it to yourself. That is dangerous. He's

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so so dangerous. Like, you wake up yeah. You wake up on

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Christmas day and you're like, oh, what the fuck do I gotta do now? And

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I don't want that to happen for anyone. And for anybody that is

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struggling or is in crisis, pick up the phone, text

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988. If you're outside of the United States or

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Canada, use findahelpline.com. They

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there are crisis lines out there. They are free. They are

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anonymous. They save people's lives every

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day. And I can't thank our listeners enough. I can't

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thank my my family, our guests,

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my amazing, fantastic, dirty

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Skittles because we're changing the

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the the world one conversation at a time. I'm just happy we get

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to do this together. Yeah. You know? It it's my favorite thing. I

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can't wait. Season 9 is, you know, starting next week,

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and we have such an amazing lineup of guests. And

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we can't thank you. We we don't know how to thank you guys enough.

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You know, make sure you sign up for our newsletter. There's more information in our

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newsletters than there are in the show notes. So if you really wanna get to

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know the guests, we are putting out some new merch

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in the next couple of weeks and, doing a couple

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updates to the website so it's a little easier to use. Yeah. And I

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wanna say, speaking of next season, there are a

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few guests I'm really excited to rerecord with. You know who

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they are. We'll we'll we'll keep it, I guess, as a

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surprise, a cliffhanger. Yeah. But I do wanna give a special shout

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out to Juju. If anybody remembers, I don't even know what season that

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was. But for anybody who

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hadn't heard of it, go look back for an episode that we

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recorded with somebody named Juju. Juju b? Juju, one of

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those? Juju b. And listen to her

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story because this year, I got to witness her

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on stage competing in a

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fitness competition. And the and the woman

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I tell you what, she she fucking kicked

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ass and won every category she was

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in. And it's important because her whole story was

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about finding strength after she had gone through really

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hard times, and she sought, you know, her energy and she

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put it into fitness. And and she it was just like I kept saying we

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should have a movie about her life because I got to go there

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and see her just fucking on top of the stage at Cocoon. It was

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amazing. So her episode is season 2,

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episode 3. Yeah. Go go

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rewatch or listen and just know that this

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year she was on stage winning shit. And it was

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amazing. I got to see all the pictures on Instagram.

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So thank you, everybody. I'm so excited for the next

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season. Me too. You know, keep taking care of yourself.

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Bye. Bye. Hi, all. Thank you so much for listening to this

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episode. I'm G Rex. And I'm Dirty Skittles. Don't

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